How frustrating, to see people with their hands out, when there is no reason for them to be in that ‘place’. Now you are all probably formulating your reply to me about circumstances and things out of one’s control etc. And where is my compassion for the homeless and the hungry. This is not what I am writing about. I am referring to people who sit in the passenger seat of life and expect everyone else to make it happen for them. You just can’t do that. Every day you need to make forward movements – make wise decisions about money, work, children, and all aspects of your life.
“You can’t just sit back and let the rest of the world take care of life for you,” says Cynthia Yates. “You’ve got to roll up your sleeves. If you’ve never stood on your own two feet, now’s the time. People will help you. There are resources out there, but you’re going to have to take that first step.”
Stop being irresponsible. Stop spending your money foolishly. You have a responsibility to be wise about financial decisions and to move in the right direction. I have had to step back from helping some friends who were constantly in dire straits. By me always be able to help them, I was enabling their behaviour. So, I have had to watch them take a walk down a wrong path and suffer the consequences of their own wilfulness. It is hard, to constantly give sound advice (when asked for) and watch it being disregarded because it would not fulfil their need for instant gratification. They get their short lived buzz from whatever it was they spent the money on. But then they realise they have no money to buy even bread or milk, or money for the bus, petrol for the car, pay their electric bill, etc, etc… They then move into panic and the thing that brought them such joy is forgotten in the midst of their self induced anxiety.
These are the people who frustrate me. Constantly living in debt, due to a succession of unwise decisions based on selfish wants, borrowing from Peter to pay Paul. It is not an easy thing to get out of debt, but it can be done. And it takes time, and it takes planning. But if you truly are committed to your dream of a better life and not having so much worry in your life, then you will make a commitment to being proactive about your own life and those that you are responsible for. I think it is even worse when I see these adults acting like a 3 yr old demanding candy and their actions then adversely affect their children. Grow up people. Stop being immature and irresponsible. We can’t afford your behaviour, and so it would seem, neither can you.
I certainly am being far more discriminate these days as to whose hand I fill with my hard earned money. And I encourage everyone to take a look at where you hand your money out. What is the cause for the need? Genuine need? – fill that hand up. Stupidity compounded by irresponsibility…? – as hard as it is, deny them. Make them face their own consequences. We can hope and pray that if they aren’t always bailed out, then they make positive steps towards changing this destructive behaviour. Meanwhile you can put your funds to be better use.